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Monday Taylor Swift released what has been called “her most political” music video yet for the song You Need To Calm Down. You might have seen #YNTCD trending on social media, heard about it on the news, read about it online, or watched it over and over again like I have —- after seeing so many promotions for the video including teasers from some of the featured LGBTQ+ community’s current stars and advocates, I decided that I need to participate more in the fight for equality.

I love this music video and the message it is sending out to the world. I hope that it sparks a light in you when you watch the beautiful people that are judged and largely cast aside by a large majority of our population. This bright, happy video exuberates love and beauty like only T Swift can give us. I hope that spark ignites the fire to join the cause and show your support for our LGBTQ+ friends.

Please join me in signing the petition mentioned at the end of this video for Senate support of the Equality Act. Visit http://chng.it/qzYcqK9VNm and sign now! You can also donate to get the petition on the agenda. Let’s do what we can to help —- even if it is just a signature.


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If you're a man, at one point or another you've probably thought to yourself, "I will never understand women!" And if you're a woman, "what's wrong with men?!" But your gender is all you've ever known, so how could you understand? As a transgender woman, Paula Stone Williams has lived on both sides, "and the differences are massive!"


Paula Stone Williams knew from a young age that she was transgender. But as she became a parent and prominent evangelical pastor, she feared that coming out would mean losing everything. In this moving, deeply personal talk, Paula and her son Jonathan Williams share what Paula's transition meant for their family -- and reflect on their path to redemption.

Paula is a motivational speaker that I recently discovered. I have heard her speak multiple times. She is a pastor and not only preaches in church but she speaks locally as well as around the country. She is a transgender woman who has recently become the most motivational and encouraging person in my life, even though she isn’t a close friend, let’s be honest, I’m too starstruck to introduce myself to her whenever I have gotten the chance (I’ll work up the courage one day...) Watching and listening to her speak makes me feel like I can push through the hard times in my life, face the truth and survive the dark days. I really wanted to put a few different videos of Ted Talks from a few different members of the LGBTQ+ community for a rounder perspective —- every time I listened to someone else talk I found motivation and ideas that are important to get out to the community —- but every time I came back to these 2 Ted Talks by Paula, she sheds light on the difficulties of being transgender and the differences in her life now that she is a woman and there is something about the way she expresses herself that draws me back time and again. They have stuck with me on this subject and I think it is because of the struggle, the truth, and the light at the end of the tunnel that Paula provides with her insight on being a man and a woman —- not only does she provide information on her life lived as a man and a woman, but she is a pastor —- a pastor that came out to a conservative church that she led and lost everything by doing so. Her story is an inspiration to me, not because she is transgender, not because she is living her true life and being authentic to her true self — NO! Paula is an inspiration to me because she is the living embodiment, the living proof that our sexuality, our gender identification, our true selves —- they happen everywhere and to everyone. She is proof that it doesn’t matter what you believe or where you come from —- our true selves are not determined solely by the gender we are associated with and it does not come as a choice or a decision to be a “heathen”. NO! There is a true authentic self in all of us —- the majority of us don’t have to fight to be who we are, we have been our true selves from day one. There are others who are not so lucky —- there are people who are born in the wrong body, are attracted to the same sex…. there is a struggle out there that we as cis people will never have to fight. I have a lot of demons to battle, but my fight is acceptable to the general public and therefore it is a struggle that I face with the support of my family, my friends and my community. Why can’t we all support and fight for our friends who are faced with pushback, hatred, violence? I, for one, am done supporting from my pedestal —- I want to fight to make a difference. We are all human, we are all the same on the inside — if you cut us we bleed, if you were to look at us from the inside we are all the same — our skin color, body size or sexual orientation should not divide us, no, it should bring us together, it should lift us up and our diversity is what should make us great as a people.


I have been trying to wrap my head around what has been happening in our world today - hatred has become the focus of the media and love seems to be disappearing, we are rolling back the rights of women, people of color, and the LGBTQ+ community. Now is the time that we need to support one another, share the love, and stand up for what we believe in.

I have been toying with a few projects - I have had a couple of ideas and “things” in the works. Thank you, Taylor Swift, the release of this video and the petition you have started to help keep the equality we have and hope for a country where full equality exists. I have started to take my thoughts and turn them into actions — stay tuned for what I have in store for you!

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